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Confidence and Low Self-Esteem 

 Confidence and Low Self-Esteem at Set your mind free

What is confidence and what is self-esteem?

When you have self-confidence, you have a positive belief in yourself. You have faith in your ability to put your best foot forward, regardless of the situation. Self-esteem, on the other hand, is a measure of how much you value yourself. It’s knowing you are worthy of love and respect, whilst still being aware of your limitations and boundaries.

When you have positive self-confidence and self-esteem it doesn’t mean that you think you are brilliant at everything, though. Quite the contrary. It means you are realistic about your abilities and have reasonable expectations of yourself. If you find you can’t do something as well as you’d like to be able to do it, you are still able to stay positive about yourself.

What is a lack of self-confidence?

The burden of other people’s expectations, often unrealistic, can have a strong effect on a person if they struggle with self-confidence. From childhood, if one or both parents fail to foster a sense of acceptance in their child, or if they are perhaps overly protective or critical, this can lead to that child struggling to feel adequate. Feelings of being ‘not good enough’ or ‘unable’ can develop and make it hard for them to believe they can be independent.

Self-reliance is a key part of both growing up and being able to accept, like, and love ourselves for who and what we are. When parents find it hard to accept a child’s mistakes, the child finds it difficult to accept mistakes in themselves too. And this can lead to a lack of self-confidence.

However, other social influences can have an impact too. The opinions of friends and sections of society can affect how a person feels about themselves. If their self-confidence is already dented from earlier years, this can be hard to overcome without a bit of help.

What is self-esteem?

It’s how much you value yourself and how important you think you are. It’s knowing you are worthy of love and respect and high self-esteem and accepting your limitations and boundaries. It’s how you see yourself and how you feel about your achievements.

What is Low Self-Esteem

We tend to go through life evaluating ourselves and others against a scale of worth. Self-esteem is effectively the amount of value that we consider we are worth. This value varies from person to person and situation to situation. When we have low self-esteem, we may tend to think of ourselves of being of little value, regardless of whether others rate us more highly. How this is initially triggered is complex and varied, but it can be anything from a sense of failure to achieve our desires, to simply being criticised too frequently. The problem regardless, however, is that thinking negatively about ourselves in certain situations can become a habit, and our self-esteem then drops.

How does low self-esteem affect us?

Low self-esteem affects us through:

Our Emotions

  • Depressed
  • Hurt
  • Angry
  • Frustrated
  • Anxious
  • Ashamed
  • Guilty
  • Our Thoughts

Negative, self-critical:

  • I’m so stupid
  • I’m worthless
  • It’s my fault
  • I’m a failure
  • I’m not good enough
  • I’m incompetent

Unhelpful Thinking Habits may include:

  • mental filter
  • mind reading
  • prediction
  • compare and despair
  • critical self
  • should and musts
  • judgements
  • emotional reasoning
  • mountains and molehills
  • catastrophising
  • black and white thinking
  • memories

Our Behaviours:

  • Trying to please others
  • Getting defensive when we believe we have been criticised (feedback!)
  • Under achieving or working harder to compensate and cover up.
  • Shy and passive around others
  • Avoiding situations or people
  • Neglecting ourselves

Build Confidence – Increase Self-Esteem

A common belief is that self-esteem and self-confidence are the same things. However, although self-confidence is related to self-esteem, they are not the same. Self-confident people may also suffer from low self-esteem, and this can be seen by the vast number of actors, celebrities and public figures who appear to be brimming with self-confidence, yet totally lack self-esteem when away from the media or when they’re not performing. Unfortunately, low self-esteem is extremely common in today’s society and individuals can often struggle to find their sense of worth in the world.

Taking care of your physical health, reducing stress levels and exercising can all help towards building self-esteem. Counselling, cognitive behavioural therapy and hypnotherapy are really useful therapies for you if you are suffering from a lack of confidence or low self-esteem. Hypnotherapy seeks to discover the root cause of low self-esteem or a lack of confidence and uses the power of suggestion through cognitive behavioural therapy to create more positive thought patterns. Re-programming your beliefs can lead to an increase in self-esteem/confidence and help you to overcome negative thinking patterns.

 

If you would like to know more then look at my page on a lack of self-esteem or call 01908 265410 or

e-mail leigh@setyourmindfree.co.uk for more information on how hypnotherapy may increase levels

of self-esteem or to arrange a free consultation.

Self-doubt “I am delighted with the help that Leigh has given me.  I came to her when I was at a very low point and in honesty I had fairly low expectations.  With Leigh’s help I feel that I have made fantastic progress and I am mentally in such a better place that my old self is almost unrecognisable.  It can be difficult to make the decision to ask for help, but I can wholeheartedly recommend Leigh. She has great empathy, zeros in very quickly on the areas which will give you the most benefit and provides excellent tools and help to get you moving quickly.  If you have recognised in yourself that you need some help, I would strongly recommend you seeking it from Leigh – you won’t be sorry!” Doug ——————————————————————————————————————————————————- “I previously let low self-esteem affect my performance in exams and how I felt about myself and how I act. I now know not to be so hard on myself and not to let my past define me.  To learn from mistakes and appreciate all the positives and to treat myself better than I was”. Courtney”* ————————————————————————————————————————————- “I have found the course very helpful and Leigh made me look at things differently and has helped me to feel much more positive about things. She has helped me to build my self esteem, motivation and outlook. Thank you”. Helen*

 

*results may vary from person to person

 

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